KJ!

Kill joy. This is how my friends normally described me. If ever we need to hang-out or drink and I refused to go with them, they will call me "kill joy". Oftentimes, I just ignore them. But lately, it's kinda irritating. Being a kill joy has a negative commentary about your personality. But seeing it on the other side, you're being a kill joy because you have your own choices on what you want to do, what makes you happy or maybe what you want to be. It does not necessarily mean that you're being a kill joy because you don't know how to make fun, we just have our own ways of being happy. Not because I don't want to drink means I hate drinking. Maybe I am not just in the mood to do that for that certain day. Not because I don't want to join them making "tambay" in a certain place doesn't mean I don't want their company. Maybe I just want to get enough sleep or I have my own priorities for that day. A kill joy don't usually give explanation on why they don't want to do such things when being invited or being asked to do so. I guess that's the main reason why they were most of the time misinterpreted. Such a pity. We all have different likes, pastimes, hobby and even interest. We may jive this day and the other day were fighting because were born to have different emotions depending on what we need. Being termed as kill joy most of the time is a compliment rather than an obstruction to one's self.  Taking it more on a positive side. You're a kill joy because you choose to embrace the imperfections without offending other people. You're a kill joy because you always try to weigh your decision whether to do something or not. Happiness is a consideration for this one. Why will you do something if it ain't make you happy? If it will not make you feel satisfied? That will just be a waste of time. You don't have to please everyone. You don't 'try' to fit in just because everyone's doing it. Because you have a self-control. On the other hand, they tend to define kill joy people as the one who afraid to take risk. I bet to disagree. They just don't want to take risk for something not work risking for. They love life as much as everyone do. They just have a different version of dealing with it. I'm not being so defensive here, just speaking the truth. And another thing, they'll accept you for who you are without calling you "kill joy" for we have our own differences. This may just be my flaws. But I like it. In fact I'm loving it. This is my very own way of protecting myself. Kinda selfish to hear but that's really it. Last thing, they say kill joy people spoil the fun of others? Again. I beg to disagree. They do not spoil others happiness, they just know what their limitations are. And this varies in situation. This is not applicable to everything. If you know what I'm thinking. We don't make it hard for people to enjoy themselves, were all grown ups so we know what's right and wrong. We also break rules. We do criticism as well so how can we even be exempted. The negative connotation of the word "kill joy" is so overrated. I just hope you know that. Peace!